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For general mental-health/lack-of-spoons reasons, I'm going to largely step away from social media through the end of 2023 - and...

For general mental-health/lack-of-spoons reasons, I'm going to largely step away from social media through the end of 2023 - and possibly beyond. I don't have a bazillion followers or anything - but I do have a few, and it just feels polite to let ppl know.

Bad news is when a doctor user the phrase "lifelong immune suppressants" in the context of one of your kids' health...

Bad news is when a doctor user the phrase "lifelong immune suppressants" in the context of one of your kids' health issues.

Good news is when they do *not* start talking about the realities of the liver-transplant-list.

Some days, there is not enough wine in all the world for being a parent.

Oh right - when Mr Doomspiral comes to visit, wine and "pandora station from high school era (when you still had Hope)" is maybe...

Oh right - when Mr Doomspiral comes to visit, wine and "pandora station from high school era (when you still had Hope)" is maybe NOT such a great combo.

I am *such* an idjit...

When dealing with long-term medical crises, one learns early that it's not linear - there are good days, and there are Bad Days, and...

When dealing with long-term medical crises, one learns early that it's not linear - there are good days, and there are Bad Days, and sometimes the bad ones show up out of the blue.

What I am wrestling with/meditating on, is that I have to divorce *my* good/bad days, from my loved one's good/bad days. If I don't - then I add "I have to have Good Days or my Dad will be unhappy" to the burden they already are carrying. Unacceptable.

Brains are dumb, love is hard - but always, always worth it.

Asheville's nightlife is *wild*, man...(description: mama bear and four cubs wandering thru downtown Asheville at...

Asheville's nightlife is *wild*, man...

(description: mama bear and four cubs wandering thru downtown Asheville at night)

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/CSmdNGrMlAU

"But Dude, it's always been this way - don't you know anything about history?"Yes. Yes, I really do. But for the VAST...

"But Dude, it's always been this way - don't you know anything about history?"

Yes. Yes, I really do. But for the VAST majority of that history, we haven't been able to share hobbies with people 5K miles away. We haven't been able to see pictures of the beautiful places of worship of people Not Like Us. We haven't had access to the entirety of the world's knowledge IN OUR FUCKING POCKETS.

"It's always been like this" is neither excuse nor explanation - it's a fucking cop-out.

My 30-yr-old daughter is in the middle of a major life-altering health crisis. I have been dealing with doctors (both Bad and, thankfully,...

My 30-yr-old daughter is in the middle of a major life-altering health crisis. I have been dealing with doctors (both Bad and, thankfully, Amazing), insurance companies, FMLA paperwork, and...a metric buttload of other stressors.

But I have also been the recipient of so much grace, and support, and kindness, from People.

Two reminders, friendos:

1) Hug the ones you love, RIGHT NOW. Life is Uncertain.

2) When Mr Rogers said "look for the helpers" - he meant any of us, at any time.

All things considered, I'm doin OK for a guy my age.On the downside - at my age, there are kind of a LOT of Things to be considered...

All things considered, I'm doin OK for a guy my age.

On the downside - at my age, there are kind of a LOT of Things to be considered...

A question for my local Mastondonners:I am Olde. I have lost connections, over the years, with a number of people who were really important...

A question for my local Mastondonners:

I am Olde. I have lost connections, over the years, with a number of people who were really important to me, Back In The Day.

Would it be Excessively Weird/Intrusive/Offputting, to drop such folk a note out of the blue, saying essentially "I lost touch with you forever ago, and I'm sorry, and I miss you and hope you and yours are doing well"?

Some days, you're so out of spoons you have to borrow from next month's supply.*Some* days, you're borrowing future-spoons that...

Some days, you're so out of spoons you have to borrow from next month's supply.

*Some* days, you're borrowing future-spoons that haven't been made yet, from steel that hasn't been poured yet, that will be created from iron that hasn't been mined yet, from a mine that hasn't been *discovered* yet. Pretty sure some of my "spoon debt" is coming from Mars at this point...

Does anyone, anywhere, ever use GChat anymore? Every now and I again I notice it, go "oh right! I remember that!", click the icon,...

Does anyone, anywhere, ever use GChat anymore? Every now and I again I notice it, go "oh right! I remember that!", click the icon, and find out the last time I talked to someone on it was in like 2017.

Did Discord kill it? Or was it just Google's typical naming/branding/UX chaos?

Some poor college baseball player who's looking to transfer has a typo in his email on the NCAA site. As a result, I am being Heavily...

Some poor college baseball player who's looking to transfer has a typo in his email on the NCAA site. As a result, I am being Heavily Recruited by college baseball coaches.

I'm mostly concerned about the kid missing out on opportunity - but I will confess to having amused myself with a response message that includes "I am a[n olde] software engineer whose arm would likely fall off if I threw a baseball. "

The coaches have been good sports about the whole thing :)

A sure sign one is Excessively Old: Your kids are at work, or a friend's house, and you realize it's just you and your spouse alone...

A sure sign one is Excessively Old: Your kids are at work, or a friend's house, and you realize it's just you and your spouse alone in the house for **hours**!

And your *first thought* is, "We could take a **nap**!!!"

Damn I had a good time at the #TriangleTootParty meetup - fascinating group of people, honored to have been in your company!Strongly...

Damn I had a good time at the #TriangleTootParty meetup - fascinating group of people, honored to have been in your company!

Strongly recommend, would (will!) meet again!

Laid-off is The Worst. Not-Laid-Off is second-worst. Survivor-guilt sucks :(

Laid-off is The Worst. Not-Laid-Off is second-worst. Survivor-guilt sucks :(

Youngest is on a path that leads to Union Organizer, without even realizing it. Worried for her, but so damn proud at the same time.

Youngest is on a path that leads to Union Organizer, without even realizing it. Worried for her, but so damn proud at the same time.

Went to our first "house concert" on Sunday at a friends' home. The band was "IlyAIMY" (https://www.ilyaimy.com/ )....

Went to our first "house concert" on Sunday at a friends' home. The band was "IlyAIMY" (https://www.ilyaimy.com/ ). Huge talent, high-energy, delightful people - will def go see 'em again! You should too!

Power goes out at 15:30. "You may have lost power" text arrives before we can find the Progress Energy report-line. ETA shows up...

Power goes out at 15:30. "You may have lost power" text arrives before we can find the Progress Energy report-line. ETA shows up on the website 5 min later. ETA is 22:00. Power restored at 17:15.

Mad props, yo, (and sympathies!) to all the IT/infra gang who put this coordinating system together, and HUGE props to the folk out on the lines tonight. Thanks for keeping us warm.

mastodon etiquetteSome questions from a MastoNoob:1) When replying, should I choose Unlisted? Or is Public OK?2) How many servers? At the...

mastodon etiquette

Some questions from a MastoNoob:

1) When replying, should I choose Unlisted? Or is Public OK?

2) How many servers? At the moment, I have logins on three servers - here for 'local', a work-stuff server, and a 'hobbies' server. How normal is this? And how separate do ppl tend to keep their various "hats"?

3) With the above - I want to unfollow folk on one server and re-follow elsewhere. Do ppl take being unfollowed personally? Should I send a note?

Introductions seem to be useful, so here's my first toot! Old tech guy in opensource, been watching social media evolve since USEnet and...

Introductions seem to be useful, so here's my first toot! Old tech guy in opensource, been watching social media evolve since USEnet and BBSs and CompuServe, looking into Mastodon because my audiobook-narrator-lady is looking for an alternative to Twitter for her community. Here's to new adventures! #linux #audiobook #dnd #foss #theatre #boardgames